When Joy Kim was 17, she came home from school and found her two younger sisters crying on the living room floor. Kim’s adopted sister, who was 7 at the time, had been bullied at school.
“Her best friend had told everyone in public, in the classroom, that she was an adoptee and that she was found in a trash bin,” Kim said.
Kim grew up in South Korea, where adoptive families such as hers face . Confucianism, which stresses the importance of bloodlines, remains a strong influence in Korean culture, and people who belong to families that include adopted children often keep their identity a secret. “It was like being a minority,” Kim said.
Furious that her sister had been targeted, Kim considered calling her teacher or even the principal. But her mother had a different idea. “She asked the teacher if she could come in and be a guest speaker, so that she could educate the children about adoption,” Kim said.
The moment was pivotal for Kim. She watched her mother, who had primarily worked as a stay-at-home mom, transform into a passionate advocate for adoptive families, speaking at many different schools and even publishing two books on the subject. Tagging along with her mother to biweekly meetings for the advocacy group , Kim learned more about the hardships adoptees experience, and she started thinking about the struggles of kids everywhere.
“It really ingrained me with a sense of the vulnerable position of children,” Kim said. “They don’t have a voice. They need a speaker. So I thought, ‘Maybe I can be that speaker.’”

